Pete Patriarch’s Musings

November 2, 2007

Not tonight dear… in fact, not ever.

Filed under: Uncategorized — Pete @ 9:17 am

Here is an excellent article by a woman who wants to do the politically incorrect thing and hold women accountable for their actions. Read it, its good.

http://women.timesonline.co.uk/tol/life_and_style/women/relationships/article2786172.ece
Feminism gave women control of their sex lives, but has it gone too far? Author and sex expert Dr Pam Spurr argues that many women are risking their relationships by saying ‘no’
Emily, 37, is a successful solicitor with a husband and a two-year-old son. To her friends, she doubtless lives a charmed existence. But recently she sat across from me in a life coaching session. She was very distressed. Having just discovered that her husband of five years had had an affair, she felt that her world had disintegrated. She’d been a good partner, hadn’t she? She was caring and hardworking, wasn’t she?
Closer examination of their relationship revealed that Emily hadn’t had sex with her husband for many months. When I pushed Emily gently on this she was incredibly defensive. It was her view that she was too busy with her career and raising their son to give any thought or time to sex.
Over the past two decades I have worked as a psychologist, life coach and sex expert, and I have found that Emily’s attitude is all too common. And such views don’t bode well for the success of relationships. With increasing frequency, women in their twenties, thirties and forties take a pragmatic, postfeminist view that sex is something over which they have no need to negotiate. In the bedroom, there is no compromise. If a man has a higher sex drive than a woman, then he can sort himself out. If he wants to try something new and she can’t be bothered, tough luck to him.
Eventually, Emily and her husband repaired their relationship – which meant learning how to confront their differences, including sexual ones.Recapture the honeymoon spirit
Olivia, a 39-year-old investment consultant, was less fortunate. She had wanted to make certain financial investments that her husband was against. Issues about their finances spread bad feeling into all other areas of their life and, like a stone dropped in water, the ripples from their acrimonious “discussions” reached far and wide.
When Olivia found that the stress of their differences diminished her sex drive, she felt completely justified in suggesting separate bedrooms. As she recounted to me – with bitter regret, after their divorce – sex had been the last thing on her mind. Her biggest mistake was not considering what was on his mind.
Having researched my new book, as well as talked to thousands of men and women over the years, I now firmly believe that too many women see the sexual side of their lives as something to be claimed completely and utterly as their own. That’s fine for single women flexing their sexual muscles.
But once they settle into a relationship, many will continue to do so. This doesn’t make sense to me at all – and unfortunately I’m privy to the heartbreak and distress that goes along with this view.
Like it or not, a sexless life is at the root of much heartache and many affairs and/or relationship break-ups. And although lack of sex can often be a symptom of other problems that lead a relationship to break down, it can also be the cause.
At the risk of being called old-fashioned (though I don’t think that old-fashioned should always have negative connotations) and antifeminist, I’d go so far as to say that for both partners sex could be considered a duty, if it is something that one partner knows would make the other happy.
Does he really want to go up on the roof to repair a leak on a Sunday afternoon?
Does she really want to take out the rubbish in the pouring rain? No, but partners in relationships do such things because they know that it makes the other happy. Sex should be seen in the same light.
I am not advocating submission. I oppose the idea that anyone should feel pressured into sex; I understand that the “sexualisation” of society often puts unnatural expectations on both women and men. I am merely pointing out that sex, as with other parts of a relationship, needs constant care and compromise. Why should the sexual area of a relationship be ringed by an emotional fence that makes it a no-go zone for discussion, while other areas are discussed openly, argued over and resolved?
Sometimes where sex has waned, both parties initially had different physical needs that were not discussed openly at the time. I have spoken to a fair few thirty-something women who settle down with a “decent chap” knowing that he’ll make a good father. On producing babies, though, many such men find themselves left out in the cold when they still desire the sexual warmth that they initially enjoyed. Such complete sexual pragmatism seems fair to these women, but what about the men? To them, sexually, men don’t seem to matter much once they have served their purpose.
Sometimes both partners feel that sex does not rank highly on their list of priorities. That’s fine. There’s no negotiation necessary when you’re both in agreement. But many women simply feel that their lives are too stressful, or that they are dealing with other relationship issues, and they don’t want to raise sex as yet another issue with which to contend.
That is a very dangerous place to be if the man doesn’t feel the same way. You may find, as Emily did, that he will seek sexual satisfaction without you. I certainly don’t justify infidelity but I can often understand why it happens. In contrast, when a woman’s sexual needs are denied, Heaven help the man responsible.
Jessica, 36, a political lobbyist, told me that she felt strongly that she and her husband were too young to give up enjoying sexual pleasure. It caused her much pain that he put long hours at work above consideration for their sex life. Tellingly, the reaction from many of her friends was “How dare he?”
That goes to the heart of this issue. As women, we have come to expect that we can control our sex lives completely – but we get angry when a man wants to do so.
Some may argue that sex is such an intimate and personal set of behaviours and beliefs that lack of compromise is justified. I would argue quite the opposite. It is because of its personal nature that sex should be explored between a couple. And by exploring their differences, and reconciling them, a couple’s attachment to, and love for, each other is often heightened.
In other cases I have found an even more disturbing attitude: that it’s fine to use occasional sex in a cold-hearted and calculated way as a favour or bartering tool for jobs well done by the man.
Amanda, a 38-year-old photographer, bartered sexual favours with her live-in partner when he did a particularly difficult piece of DIY or nasty bit of graft, such as unplugging drains. Using sex as a bargaining chip demeans both partners.
The solution is to take a holistic approach to a relationship and understand that every part of it – careers, finances, family issues, sex – needs nurturing and understanding. It’s the “only I count” sexual attitudes that are killing off much sexual intimacy.
Never be bullied into sexual activity that turns you off or be pressured into sex that doesn’t satisfy you. But always be prepared to discuss your feelings and desires and listen to his. Hopefully, that will improve your sex life and help to strengthen your relationship in other ways, too.

Advertisements

13 Comments »

  1. This is off topic.

    There is a feminist that is gunning for MRA’s since she is coming after us. Her blog is

    http://womanofsteele.blogspot.com/

    This what she thinks of MRA’s:

    62 year old “Bob Allen” claims to be a philosopher, libertarian and human rights advocate. He is part of a growing, disturbing group of bitter malcontents who call themselves Masculists, or Men’s Rights Advocates (MRA). Hiding behind the anonymity of the Internet,they spew hatred and advocate violence against women, the police, and anyone who disagrees with their agenda of hate. Members of the Men’s Rights Movement (MRM) like “Bob Allen” delight in sowing hatred,spreading lies and recruiting insecure and troubled youths into their paranoid and
    misogynistic fantasy world. When the truth isn’t compelling enough,they create their own.

    Source: http://womanofsteele.blogspot.com/2007/11/mens-rights-advocate-glorifies-cop.html

    It seems her first target was yours truly because I dared to question her precious IMBRA.

    The oh-so erudite and eloquent eMasculated Cretins over at Men’s Rights Blog took exception to my “outing” their latent homosexuality (which was already “out” to anyone who had taken a college-level Intro to Psych course, which is why none of them realized it, I guess). One of the more advanced (i.e. with opposable thumbs & potty trained) of the eMasculists (boldly putting forth his views under the name “anonymous”) posted this reaction (in the quaint vernacular of his people) to the Woman of Steele blog:

    Who are FredX and Duncan? The older men who taught eMasculated Man when he was just eFfeminate Boy? Where did they go? San Francisco? Bangcock? The aids clinic?

    Note to self: what’s an mra? Men Reaming Assholes? Mostly Retarded Asshats? My Rectal Adventure? I’m sure Mr. eMas knows how to tear new assholes, having broken in lots of newbies like anonymous….

    Source: http://womanofsteele.blogspot.com/2007/11/life-among-savages-mens-rights-blog.html

    Since “man” cannot live by Internet porn, phone sex and mail order bride fantasy sites alone, there are a number of sophomoric Cretins running immature, moronic anti-woman,anti-IMBLA hate sites, forums and blogs with the time that normal males would be spending with real female companionship. These perpetual adolescents strut incessantly, talking big and bold behind their fake names and faux manly personas, complaining about American women and feminists and pretending that they’re home every night, typing with one hand, by choice.

    To the outside observer, their denial about their own sexuality, and the angst it’s causing,is palpable and obvious. A particularly pathetic example is called Men’s Rights Board here on blogspot. Like most of these sites, it’s run by a guy too cowardly to use his real name (lest his mother or husky
    Polish wife reads it and makes him put the ball gag back on) This guy calls himself (get this:) the “Masculist Man.” Gay enough for ya? A name obviously inspired by a Village People song.

    He has a really bad illustration of a cartoon character grasping the phallic shaft of a sword held erect. The character is so cowardly he wears glasses and a kerchief over his face. He has just hacked the arm off a chained skeleton. Is this the poster graphic for Impotence, or what?

    Most all of these guys are compensating for something… social awkwardness,impotence,latent homosexuality, insecurity, tiny penises, acne or obesity. Too bad that instead of raising themselves up, they put their energy into tearing women down.

    Source:http://womanofsteele.blogspot.com/2007/10/many-imbra-foes-in-denial-about-their.html

    She even went on to say this about one of our brothers:

    Update: I found the blog of Fredx (http://fredxblog.blogspot.com/). I’m sure glad he’s not around! Sounds like a real man’s man!

    Source: Source:

    https://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=6080345063578183228&postID=204452537655383541

    Comment by masculist man — November 4, 2007 @ 2:18 am

  2. Unbelievable, that is really best of craigslist:

    This girl wants money, presents and a man who is generous:
    http://sfbay.craigslist.org/sby/w4m/468579732.html

    ISO SPOILS AND FUN!!!!
    Reply to: pers-468579732@craigslist.org
    Date: 2007-11-04, 7:51AM PST

    HELLO

    WELL IM NOT SURE WHERE TO BEGIN…………
    I GUESS I WILL START WITH WHAT I AM LOOKING FOR. I WANT TO DATE A MAN THAT IS FINANCIALLY SECURE AND ABLE TO GIVE A PRETTY DADDY’S GIRL A MONTHLY ALLOWANCE. A GENTLEMAN THAT IS RESPECTFUL, KIND, A GREAT FRIEND, UNDERSTANDING, LOVING, HONEST, CARING, CHARMING, WITTY, GREAT SENSE OF HUMOR, LOVES COMEDY, LOVES A ROMANTIC NIGHT OUT ON THE TOWN, GENEROUS (A MAN THAT I CAN DEPEND ON TO BE THERE FINANCIALLY WHEN I NEED HIM), GREAT GIFT GIVER, SEXXY IN YOUR OWN WAY, SENSUAL, SEXUALLY OPEN MINDED, OWNS THINGS, LOVES TO TRAVEL AND DOES SO OFTEN LOL! ATTACHED IS OK BUT I AM A VERY PRIVATE AND DISCREET PERSON WITH NO DRAMA/ NO BAGGAGE SO I WOULD NEED TO KEEP IT THAT WAY! I DO WORK AND ATTEND SCHOOL SO WITH OUR SCHEDULES WE WOULD HAVE TO MAKE TIME AT LEAST ONCE A WEEK. I AM OPEN TO AGE SINCE I THINK IT IS ONLY A NUMBER THAT DEFINES WISDOM AND EXPERIENCE!

    PLEASE MY AD IS GENUINE AND I AM LOOKING FOR SERIOUS MEN ONLY. I AM NOT LOOKING FOR FLAKES OR FAKES. I AM A GOOD HONEST GIRL WHO IS LOOKING FOR AN ON GOING RELATION WITH BENEFITS OF A WIFE OR MISTRESS BUT WITHOUT A COMMITMENT FROM EITHER PARTY! JUST A GOOD HEALTHY FRIENDSHIP!

    ALSO I WOULD LIKE TO KNOW WHO RESPONSE TO MY AD SO YOU MUST SEND A PHOTO! I WILL NOT REPLY TO THOSE WHO DO NOT SEND A PICTURE OF THEMSELVES. PLEASE KNOW THAT I AM NOT INTERESTED IN THE PHOTO FOR ANY PURPOSE OTHER THAN MY OWN OR FOR LOOKS (SINCE BEAUTY IS IN THE EYE OF THE BEHOLDER AND WELL A BOOK IS DEEPER THAN ITS COVER), I WOULD JUST LIKE TO KNOW WHO I AM EMAILING. I WILL REPLY WITH MY PHOTO AS WELL THAT IS ONLY FAIR! I CAN TELL YOU THAT I AM VERY SEXXY TOO AND AM FULL OF LIFE. I STAND 5’7, 155LBS, DARK HAIR, LIGHT EYES, GREAT SMILE, CLEAR FACE, FULL LIPS, GREAT ASS, 38DD NATURAL, SHAVED PINK PRINCESS!

    WELL I GUESS WITH ALL THAT SAID I WILL HOPE TO HEAR BACK FROM A TRUE GENTLEMAN! AND TO THOSE WHO READ MY AD BUT ARE NOT INTERESTED THANK YOU FOR TAKING THE TIME, GOOD LUCK ON YOUR SEARCH TOO!

    KISSES AND TO THOSE WHO KEEP FLAGGING MY AD PLEASE BE RESPECTFUL TO PREFERENCE. IF YOU ARE NOT INTERESTED THATS FINE, JUST MOVE ON! THANK YOU

    This one has Herpes and is proud of it:
    http://sfbay.craigslist.org/sfc/w4m/468476719.html

    Got herpes, so do I….Lets find each other – 40
    Reply to: pers-468476719@craigslist.org
    Date: 2007-11-04, 6:47AM PST

    Herpes doesn’t make us any less desirable, we are still beautiful human beings and we can still have beautiful, steamy, hot, wild love. Looking for a long term monogamous relationship. Please be single and live in SF. Be prepared to have a photo to exchange.

    I am a sweet, kind and loving woman, 40ish and voluptous. You are honest and looking for me!

    BTW: statistics show that one in four people have it and just don’t know yet! So don’t bother to write me with obnoxious rebuff, it just wastes your time and mine. Enjoy your day, it looks to be a beautiful one…..

    Is that for real?????????????????????????????

    Craigslist is wonderful – it shows the dark side of society.

    Comment by dd — November 4, 2007 @ 8:23 am

  3. That’s fucked up. And both of them are fatties.

    Comment by Pete — November 4, 2007 @ 10:45 am

  4. I love craigslist, it is so unbelievable. Please allow me to post these gems here.

    http://sfbay.craigslist.org/pen/w4m/468794555.html

    Reply to: pers-468794555@craigslist.org
    Date: 2007-11-04, 12:10PM PST

    I have a round ass and nice boobs which make those damn guys keep on calling for my attention. I dont need that because I am a self-assured independent career woman who looks hot in her suit. I may look quiet serious sometimes, this 20-something gal also lets her hair down once in a while. Try an online chat with me and youll know.

    This woman will look for a nice guy at 40 when she is desperately trying to get pregnant:
    http://sfbay.craigslist.org/eby/w4m/468808518.html
    hot n sexy woman in need of a sex buddy – 22 (oakland hills / mills)
    Reply to: pers-468808518@craigslist.org
    Date: 2007-11-04, 12:28PM PST

    Hi, Im new to this whole internet dating thing but am excited about the possibilities. My name is Crystal. My hair is black, I am 5 foot 10 tall. I have nice 32-B breasts. I have gotten sick and tired of going to the bars, so I figured this might be a better way to find someone. I LOVE talking dirty, enjoy a good spankin’ and a sensual work out in the sheets. Just looking for casual good times, no strings. I hope your interested by now, if so drop me a line.

    Now, look at her: a great catch when she is actually horrible – at 25.
    http://sfbay.craigslist.org/sfc/w4m/468804354.html
    Great Catch!! – 25
    Reply to: pers-468804354@craigslist.org
    Date: 2007-11-04, 12:23PM PST

    Looking for someone who is 26-35, financially stable, tall, extremely good looking, gentle, loves kids. And if you have any emotional baggage, please do not respond. Also, if you think you’re good looking check again please, I’m extremely picky. I’ve noticed guys in the bay area think they’re hot shit when in all reality they’re not.

    Im 5’8″, skinny 125 lbs, tattooed, loving, giving, laid back, mom. Looking to find that spark with someone. Start casual and see where it goes from there.

    125 pounds is not skinny. So she is a mom and not married. Really great.
    Sure the man needs to love kids that are not his own and he needs money – alot of mooooooooooooonnnnnnnnnnneeeeeeeeeeyyyyyyyyyyyy!

    Comment by dd — November 4, 2007 @ 12:50 pm

  5. Pasaionate about money:
    http://sfbay.craigslist.org/nby/w4m/468839047.html

    PASSIONATE ABOUT LIFE! – 40 (novato)
    Reply to: pers-468839047@craigslist.org
    Date: 2007-11-04, 1:08PM PST

    I’m looking to meet new people.

    1. Are you solvent?

    2. Do you enjoy the city as well as the mountains?

    3. Are you well traveled?

    4. Are you child free?

    5. Have you been to Burning Man?

    6. Are you a creative and passionate person?

    7. Do you have time and money to go play?

    8. Do you practice a Buddist philosophy?

    I look forward to hearing from you. Please resond with a picture and your phone number. I’m not a big computer person. I get a much better feeling about a person when we have conversation. I look forward to hearing from you.

    Whorrible:
    http://sfbay.craigslist.org/eby/w4m/468840616.html
    Wanna do it in the Library? – 23 (oakland rockridge / claremont)
    Reply to: pers-468840616@craigslist.org
    Date: 2007-11-04, 1:09PM PST

    I guess well get caught but you know, we can do it somewhere else! Any idea? You should be creative enough if you want to have a truly good time with this brainy girl. I do not like lousy guys! For a 23 yr-old femme fatale like me, you should really be good. This is strictly NSA. Pls attach those pics. Thanks a lot!

    This deluded woman wants a man who is generous but not materialistic – LOL. And of course she is 33 and want Kids fast.
    http://newyork.craigslist.org/wch/w4m/468774338.html

    What im looking for? – 33
    Reply to: pers-468774338@craigslist.org
    Date: 2007-11-04, 2:48PM EST

    I’m looking for a man that’s truly attractive, intelligent and knowledgeable, cultured and sophisticated but not materialistic, kind and generous, spiritual but not religious, liberal on the outside but conservative on the inside, and versatile enough to live in two different socio-economic worlds. I’m looking for someone that understands how to compromise, but is also capable of addressing issues that he cannot compromise on, upfront. and is within the ages of 29 to 35. I’d also like someone who wants to have kids within the next five years and he as well as I will try our best to maintain our appearance. I also want someone realistic/moralistic enough to understand that passionate love has a shelf life of give or take three years, but that true love in order to endure takes a lot of work and sacrifice. I’d like someone that challenges me to improve myself yet appreciates how successful I already am.

    Please only serious inquiries respond. Your pic gets mine. Look foward to hearing from you!

    Eating out and drinking wine.
    http://newyork.craigslist.org/mnh/w4m/468796580.html
    Cute girl here!! – 23 (Upper East Side)
    Reply to: pers-468796580@craigslist.org
    Date: 2007-11-04, 3:13PM EST

    I am a sweet, intelligent, and cute girl seeing if I can meet a great guy. I figured I would give it a shot and see if there was someone I could make a connection with. Someone I could explore the city with, try new restaurants with and enjoy some wine. I am white, blonde, petite, and fit. I am looking for a smart, athletic, handsome, ambitious, classy man who will make me smile. Someone I can have great times with! Are you out there??

    Size 18. Very attractive LOL.
    http://newyork.craigslist.org/que/w4m/468822149.html
    looking for a SBM – 35
    Reply to: pers-468822149@craigslist.org
    Date: 2007-11-04, 3:46PM EST

    A Single Black Woman in search of a single Black Man between the ages of 34-45 for a possible relationship.

    Listen, I’m a good woman and I know how to take care of my man. I’m looking for a friend first situation that can ease into a serious relationship. Let me tell you a little about me: I’m educated and professional, feminine and charming, Love to laugh, love to have a good time, EXTREMELY OPEN MINDED….. I can cook my ass off….LOL. Love doing a variety of things.

    Looking for a single black man who is down to earth,knows what he wants and doesn’t have to lie, cheat and steal or get it…A man who wants a good woman in his corner, not just someone who looks good but someone who can hold it down and take care.

    A lot of black men today are looking for other than a black woman, they are looking for sizes 0-5. Well, I’m not a size 5, I’m a size 18. I wear it well. I’m pretty and confident, talk to me and you’ll see……

    I want to tell you more so you should email me and find out about this wonderful lady….

    Oh, i’m a single parent. If children are not your thing, I understand…..so just keep it moving, but don’t get involved and expect me to act like my children does not exist….One is in college, the other is in daycare…Just so that you know.

    An average weight woman – ooopss average means overweight now in the USA it seems:
    http://newyork.craigslist.org/brk/w4m/468828245.html

    Mad and extremely overconfident:
    http://newyork.craigslist.org/que/w4m/468830011.html

    Being well balanced, I have a great figure. I am also highly erotic and would like to explore more in the context of a healthy relationship. I would like to explore my deepest fantasies which are very submissive in nature. I do not have a lot of experience with D/s and I want to experience a lot.

    Why are so many women on Craigslist so much lacking beauty????????

    Comment by dd — November 4, 2007 @ 1:28 pm

  6. That “hot shit” mom needs to take a look in her own mirror and a look at her post. The arrogance is incredible. I noticed that most of them have been removed or flagged… save the photos next time! Let me guess, high school yearbook photo?

    Comment by Pete — November 4, 2007 @ 6:28 pm

  7. Reminds me of the woman who got married then told her new husband that they will not be having sex for 6 years so she could finish her degree, then start a practice for 2 years, then quit and have a baby. She was upset that hubby wasn’t impressed and so rang up a radio station to complain what an insensitive jerk he was.

    Comment by darkbhudda — November 7, 2007 @ 6:19 am

  8. Great stuff Pete, I salute your hard work and endeavour. Now,these entitlement princeses are basically the rule rather than the exception these days. They’re fed all this rubbish by the media of course and being essentially herd like, women swallow it hook line and sinker. Some of these vile harpies have to be seen to be believed. They all seem to think they’re these incredible catches and that any man should fall down in thanksgiving and worship the very ground they walk upon. Nope, no thanks. I’ll pass, I think. I’d rather be alone and single and FREE than condem myself to a lifetime of misery I would doubtless endure living with this type of shrew. What about that queen of entitlement, Heather Mills? Christ almighty, a one-legged ex-porn skank probably now going to clean McCartney’s clock and in the process morph into some icon of modern femmies wet dream? Serves McCartney right in a way, cause he could have had Cleopatra and the Queen of Sheba (well, almost!) on speed dial to blow him silly, but look what he chose. Sweet Jesus spinning on his cross! Seeing Mills do the celebrity sofa circuit on telly last week and dissolving into tears at the drop of a hat was frickin hilarious.

    Comment by Mansworld — November 7, 2007 @ 11:47 pm

  9. You can use these images here on this blog.
    http://reality2007-endofcivilization.blogspot.com/

    Comment by mark — November 8, 2007 @ 1:47 pm

  10. Just noticed that OT post about “womanofsteele” (heh, funny how she criticizes the handles of mra bloggers, then comes up with that).

    Honestly, I’m happy every time I see a harpy act up like that, and say those things, because it means word is spreading, it’s having an effect, and fembots like her are scared and worried. She’s whistling in the dark, and she knows it.

    For example: I live in a really, really, liberal, feminized sort of town, and I was really surprised at some of the comments I saw in response to an online article in our local paper about an increase in DV calls in october. Pretty standard stuff in the article itself, but the responses were largely from men (and one woman) who were basically saying things similar to what MRA bloggers might say about it, and were clearly in the know about how biased things have become. They pointed out how often it’s used as a tactic by women, how police are trained to blame and arrest the man, etc.

    There was one fembot who logged on and tried to accuse them of blaming the victim, etc., and a couple more cheered her on, but she was soundly drubbed in debate by the other commentators. It was really heartening to see something like that, locally no less, and to me that says that blogs like this are making a difference.

    Some people scoff and say “oh, you can’t make a difference just typing on the internet,” but I think that such things do constitute making a difference, and I applaud the efforts of bloggers who are spreading the word, and helping guys like me to realize that we’re not crazy, not alone, and there are others who’ve seen through the feminatrix as well.

    Rock on, I say. Let the likes of “womanofsteele” rant on. It’s a sign of accomplishment.

    Comment by B.R. — November 8, 2007 @ 2:59 pm

  11. Men are “intimidated” by her:

    http://newyork.craigslist.org/brk/w4m/473364005.html
    punk, confident, artist, crazy, sane, smart, stupid, silly, serious…
    Reply to: pers-473364005@craigslist.org
    Date: 2007-11-09, 12:24AM EST

    its all in the title but i will elaborate a bit. men are intimidated by me, at least so it feels most of the time. im honest, easy, cool, artist type…actually probably an original hipster (ie no trust fund) but hey okay if you do 🙂
    anyway… i am super busy and slightly self absorbed so i dont meet people alot, gravitate to the same places and dont get out alot. i have to say the least a lot of tattoos, a pretty nice figure, i turn heads and its not all in the tattoos.
    i work hard and play hard. i love music, pool, video games…etc basically im a hot tomboy. (my lesbian friends are still trying to turn me 🙂 i drink, i smoke, i rarely do drugs, and then i keep it simple. looking for a hot, sexy, fun, talented, creative, similar type. send pic with response… i posted once about a year ago…i got a lot of responses, so please forgive me if i cant get back to everyone, if even to say thanks for the response.

    This woman looks for a man, who has a successful career, because she has one. But men are interested in good looking women, not 35 yo.

    http://newyork.craigslist.org/brk/w4m/473284834.html
    Basically looking for…. 35 and up
    Reply to: pers-473284834@craigslist.org
    Date: 2007-11-08, 10:43PM EST

    I am basically looking for a Funny and creative person, someone who enjoys going out (movies,dancing,dinner etc.) I would prefer someone who is a vegetarian or vegan, but that isn’t mandatory. Please be a non smoker. I enjoy being active. I love yoga, it’s become a great passion of mine. But i a also enjoy bike riding and walking. I am into fashion but you don’t have to be. I have a successful career so i am looking for someone who has one as well. I love to laugh so humor is important me, there is nothing better than a good laugh.

    If you think we could have good conversation and some fun email me back.

    The Classic: “WHERE HAVE ALL THE GOOD MEN GONE?”
    They were there when she was 18.

    http://newyork.craigslist.org/brk/w4m/473141556.html
    The Quest for a Real Man!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    Reply to: pers-473141556@craigslist.org
    Date: 2007-11-08, 7:25PM EST

    It’s like looking for a needle in a Hay stack,
    where have all the good men gone? Who is not Gay,
    is locked up,the few good ones can not be found,
    I know what I am looking for, I am yet to meet
    a man that was not about games,or how many
    ladies he can seduce, I know that this is
    a long shot, but I am still holding out.
    I am 30 years old, single, no children,
    employed, like Jazz and Reggae, looking for
    someone whom I am compatible, there is only
    one way to find out, so you make contact and
    we will take it from there. I must tell you though,
    I am attracted to men of African descent…

    Comment by dd — November 9, 2007 @ 8:29 am

  12. Hi Pete, while browsing the internet I found this gem:

    http://www.divorceinfo.com/ringafterdivorce.htm
    The law in most states (not all, but most) is that the wife gets to keep the engagement ring and wedding ring after divorce. In some cases the rings (particularly the engagement ring) can be quite valuable. Occasionally, particularly for young couples, the ring will be the largest asset of the marriage, because it’s rarely encumbered by debt. So it’s not at all unusual for the wife to end up after divorce with a valuable engagement ring and/or wedding ring and be uncertain about what to do with it. Here are some of the solutions I hear about:

    Do nothing
    Give it back to him
    Sell it
    Save it for your children
    Throw it away

    Isn’t that unbelievabel? The engagement ring is the most valuable item of young married people.
    That means man is paying a lot of money for a piece of tetrahedral carbon, after divorce the wife keeps it.
    Marriage is just money transfer.

    Hey, I want to be a woman!

    Comment by dd — November 9, 2007 @ 11:24 am


RSS feed for comments on this post. TrackBack URI

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s

Blog at WordPress.com.

%d bloggers like this: