Pete Patriarch’s Musings

July 18, 2008

More people waking up to legalized misandry?

Filed under: Uncategorized — Pete @ 6:38 am

I just saw this on a forum that I frequent. The guy I’m quoting is raising three kids, is awarded a pittance of $100/wk, which the mom obviously doesn’t pay, with obviously no consequences. Predictably, the child support enforcement agency doesn’t care, but there’s a twist…

My long custody battle ended with me having custody of our 3 kids, making sure they were doing well, and she being seen buying rounds of shots in a bar celebrating getting rid of her kids.

At the time when the custody case was settled she agreed to pay $100 a week in child support for our 3 children, one of which is handicapped and has lots of medical issues/expenses. Pretty lenient deal I think. It’s been around 5 years since then.

I had a long, long, talk with the MA Department of Revenue (DOR) today and we agreed that in the past 5 years there has been a total of around $200 paid into this account. The outstanding balance including penalties is over $35,000. After some pressing I found out that the last action that the DOR took was 2 years ago when they suspended her driving license. After she never appeared at court as required no further action was taken. This is very bothersome to me.

As it stands they’re going to pull her in for contempt for never responding to the notifications sent in 06 when here license was revoked and I’m working on finding out what fantastic case worker has let this slide for half a decade.

The real interesting part is that she got remarried not long ago. Apparently the guy is doing pretty well. Poor bastard, I’m certain that he has no idea that the DOR and the IRS are about to drop a load of shit bricks into their life.

I’m also just amazed at how the DOR has totally failed to follow up properly on this for so many years. I’m pissed at the state for letting this slide for so long and pissed at my ex for being a shitty mother. On another note she’s visited them once in the past 3 years. Bravo again.

edit: The biggest “Deadbeat Mom” comment in the title comes from looking at the top 10 most wanted by MA DOR that gets posted up in post offices etc. She isn’t there and a few of those guys owe less than my ex does.

edit2:
I think the real reason that this bothers me so much isn’t about the 100 bux a week of support, that’s just a token. It’s about the difference that I have observed in how agencies work when mom is the custodial parent vs when dad is the custodial parent. After my ex split and before she abandoned the kids she had custody for about 8 years. During this time the DOR was Johnny on the spot with me. If I changed a job and missed a week of child support payments they knew and sure let me know. If I got laid off and missed a few payments they took it out of my checking account like magic.

I respect single moms A LOT, any single parent for that matter. It’s hard work for anyone to raise kids on their own and if you do it and put your kids first you deserve respect. It’s the disparity between how I’ve seen how state agencies and private organizations operate depending on if it’s a mother or a father that’s asking for help. That’s what’s making me a little nuts right now.

My personal experience may be an anomaly but after 13 years of seeing this consistent pattern I’m just tired of it and very frustrated.

Yes, this man has been through the wringer and is mad that his wife is getting the kid gloves treatment.

That’s just the beginning. Where these threads sometimes consisted solely of blind supporters of women both male and female, the balance seems to be changing as more and more people see the injustice for themselves. Its a lot of cognitive dissonance to deal with, with the disconnect between the reality of women being cheating, conniving deceitful whores, and the fantasy of them as sugar and spice and everything nice which has been pummeled into them throughout their childhood. Predictably though, the very first comment implies that its his own fault for marrying her. “your pic should be up there [on the child support website] for marrying that broad”

Here’s a few more…

Could be worse, dude. She could insist on partial-custody, not pay for doctors or dental, not feed them, beat them, and then marry a guy who makes tons of cash but wails on them harder.

I had two seperate friends like this in middle/high school. Had great dads though, but neither just couldn’t get full time custody.

Holy shit, when did my dad get an SA account?

I’m really sorry OP that you’re going through this. I have experienced first hand the failure of the state to give the same standards to men and women. In September my mom went off the deepend, broke into my father and sister’s house and tried to kill my dad. Long story short she is not guilty on all counts by reason of insanity. My dad was charged with ten counts of child endangerment for allowing my mother the means to harm my sisters or some other ridiculous bullshit. He has been fighting to get full custody of my sisters back for almost a year now. Just last week the court removed the supervised vists. That means that before then he got to visit my sisters for two hours a week in the presence of their caseworker. Now he can see them alone but the visits have to be scheduled. The day that it happened my sisters were asked multiple times if my father ever abused my mother. They couldn’t beleive that a woman could do this without being provoked by an abusive husband.

It makes me sad to know that had the sexes in this situation been reversed they would have never even thought of removing my sisters. I hope your situation works out and people start getting their heads out of their asses.

When I lived with my mom, child support was taken from my dad before he even got his hands on his paycheque.
When I lived with my dad, my mom paid about 200$ in child support over 6 years despite being ordered to pay 50$ a week in addition to half of the cost of schooling.

Right before I turned 18, my dad got a letter from the State of Michigan wondering why he’d not provided for my care and demanding a BACK support payment of tens of thousands of dollars… Dear ol’ mom never let anyone know she didn’t had custody of me anymore.

I ended up living with my mom again when I was in college and needed help paying for my schooling. She gave me a song and dance about being so broke and she just didn’t know how she was going to make ends meet (her household finances being beyond what could get my financial aid is what made me need help). I told her, “Fine. I’m pretty sure I still have a claim on my hands for all the child support you never paid”. She paid for a quarter of my schooling and that was that.

Yes, this is the reality on the ground. People are waking up, and while they’re still groggy from the fitful sleep of the last 40 years, it won’t take them long to start to connect the dots between female supremacism and cultural and institutional hatred of men.

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48 Comments »

  1. The gender bias in the child support system is deliberate and intentional. The State wants to discourage custodial Fatherhood – because a custodial Father is usually independent and raises his child(ren) to be independent individualists as well. No, the state wants to actively encourage dependent, nanny-state voting/using and supporting single mother households.

    Comment by Hawaiian Libertarian — July 18, 2008 @ 3:23 pm

  2. Hi Pete:

    BTW you might be interested in what I recieved today from another Men Rights friend of mine. The
    identity behind rw_man is actually Kenneth Walter Yu. A chinese american from san jose, ca. Apparently he fled woodlands, tx. USA during his probation following the molesting of his stepdaughter, a 13 yr old girl. i believe the information i found states he was on probation. Further, on top of this he abandoned his 10 yr old boy in ca. completely.

    Nice to know who we are chatting with. I am for men’s rights and facilitate a men’s support group. However do not support anyone’s right to do harm or whatever they want to anyone. The man is a con.

    Regarding paying for Russian women: first take care of your family debt, then you can pay for anyone you like. I have no problem with the several different views and opinions of the men in my group; however, i always tell them to take care of family business first. One way to prevent such atrocities and anguish is to be clear as possible before we engage in sexual relations with females. Some of the men i work with believe it is important to have a vasectomy to protect themselves from mistakes. The point is clean up your past, take care of the kids and move on.

    Paul

    Comment by paul — July 19, 2008 @ 12:19 pm

  3. Paul, that’s a serious charge. Are you sure about what you’re saying?

    Comment by Pete — July 19, 2008 @ 9:10 pm

  4. pete, i am very very sure. do you have another email i can send an attachment with actual court info? the easiest email access for me is: peband@yahoo.com

    Below is dated from 2/12/07…RW (ken yu)tried to ask a friend of mine for $300 for introductions. Harry declined saying it felt more like a pimping of women… He likes to say he is a “professor” but it is actually a common job to teach English overseas. His “GL” is for galactic love; however he signs his real name KEN at the bottom:

    Date: Mon, 12 Feb 2007 11:03:20 +0600
    From: “Galactic Love”
    To: “harry winston”
    Subject: Re: Russian Women site

    Hi Harry,

    Thanks for the email. You can pretty much learn a ton of information from reading my entire blog when you have the time. I go pretty deeply into what Russian Women in general are all about. They truly inspire me and I believe they hold the key to so many things in life.

    Let me tell you a little on how I work so we have a path to start with.

    I have a huge social network of girls here since I’m a university professor teaching english (that’s confidential by the way). On top of that I’ve had my own band for 2 years as a lead singer and I’ve met tons of women that way as well. The best way in the world to meet the best girls here in Russia is through “a friend” or what we commonly call “social proof”.

    I need to spend time with you to understand what you are all about, what direction you are going towards in your life, and what kind of lady would you like by your side to do this with. So I need to spend time chatting with you on MSN Messenger (preferably) or ICQ or Gtalk. This gives you a chance to ask any questions you might have as well directly.

    This is basically an initial “get to know you ” phase and it takes about a week and I charge $300 for that via PayPal. Once this is done I will know what type of girl you are after and what type of challenges we will have (or not) in getting that done for you. For example many guys obviously want me to find them a supermodel quality girl who is typically much younger then themselves. This is a challenge for obvious reasons and will take more time and resources on my part to pull that off but it can be done.. Because of the greater amount of time and energy required for this I will need to charge a greater amount as opposed to someone who is happy finding a 30ish divorsee with children. It’s important to know that I will have NO IDEA as to how much to charge you for the full engagement until we complete this get to know you phase. It’s no different from a construction or engineering estimate that you need to pay for.

    Again the primary advantage to this is that I have access to the 99% of the girls who would never join agencies due to the public stigma that exists here against that. As a result these girls tend to be more beautiful and good natured because I establish a trusted line of communication with them as I get to know them as well.

    So that’s how we can move forward Harry and from reading what you’ve already sent me I’m sure this is going to be a huge experience for you..

    Talk to you soon,

    Ken

    Comment by Paul — July 20, 2008 @ 4:32 pm

  5. Paul,

    I have to agree with Pete. As someone who has actually met up with Ken a few times and knowing a bit about his back story I don’t see these pieces fitting into his storyline. I know he has gained many enemies that would say or do whatever they could to make him look as bad as possible to damage our movement. Unless you want to divulge links/facts to back this up this is nothing more than trash talk.

    Comment by SunnyInSanDiego — July 20, 2008 @ 6:42 pm

  6. Someone told me that was some bad accusation floating around about RW_Man..

    Well now I can see why..

    Pete do me a favor.. I’m neither going to confirm or deny that I am this man mentioned in the above post.

    And there’s a very good reason for this too..

    We bloggers who cover our anti-feminist subject need to be able to do our reporting and still function on a daily basis by maintaining our privacy. I can see that this is something you practice yourself for obvious reasons.

    There’s no telling given the state of our laws if someday we may be prevented from doing the writing that we do or even someday be persecuted for it.

    In the meantime might I recommend something. This is indeed a serious accusation that needs clarification for this individual and personal mud slinging (especially against another MGTOW) on a public forum is not what I believe your blog is about.

    I’d suggest that you or someone go on the net and do a search on any sex offender or felony registry on this person’s name to see what you find.

    Or if there is a way to access court records to see if there are any judgments, probation violation or even fugitive status on this person.

    As you know accusations in court I’m sure are a dime a dozen given how many women in the US will flash an physical abuse or sexual assault claim in order to facilitate a divorce.

    And I’ve seen more then my share of men destroyed with just that no matter if the accusation later proved to be false or not.

    If this is the case then it’s bad enough when the women are ganging up and pointing fingers let alone Men doing it too..

    Well that is the power that the feminist have right now that we need to fight against collectively.

    The last thing we need to do as anti-feminist bloggers is to be part of the feminist machine and do more of their dirty work for them.

    So if you find something on this person then maybe you have a possible story to report on.

    But in the meantime I’d do all of us a favor and show the blogosphere that your good work is not to be used as a forum for any possible false feminist rants or accusations.

    In the meantime it might be a good idea to suspend this accusatory comment until someone can absolutely prove that it belongs in such an open forum like this.

    “Innocent until proven guilty etc etc etc..”

    Just my 2-cents..

    Let me know what you find and email me if you wish at galacticlove@gmail.com

    Take care,

    GL

    Comment by rw_man — July 21, 2008 @ 11:09 am

  7. Rw or GL or whoever you are, you are obviously guilty as hell. I checked out the court document and that is not a good thing man. It states that the District Court of Montgomery County, TX. and The state of Texas versus Kenneth W. Yu in the offense of Sexual Assault with a minor…. I am a man who fights for the best interest of men however I respect all people no matter what. Men’s Rights are for men who are with integrity, and who can control their impulses. I do not know your wife or what happened but it is not a good thing. Kids are innocent. I hope this poor 13 yr old girl recieves the therapy she needs. Kids need support from their parents, not perverted behaviors or abandonment. I do not care about the feminist stone throwing excuses that you put down, it’s an excuse. In addition to this……… the accusation to leave your 10 yr old son and/or daughter behind w/o any help or contact is a crime; and I put down CRIME because of what it does for a kids mind, especially a boy, when he grows up to be a man. I hope for your kids sake that you send them money and gifts and plane tickets to stay in touch with you. Take care of your daughters and sons if nothing else.

    My story: my dad raised us (i was 3 yrs old) after our mother remarried and stopped contact with us. I have much passion for kids no matter who did what. I am a caucasian man, 45 yrs old and now married to a Ethiopian woman I met last year. We are very happy. I still fight for Men’s rights and my heart goes out to the kids….

    LOVE YA PETE the PATRIARCH, my favorite of all times!!!!!! You go man.

    take care, RC

    Comment by Ralph Connell — July 21, 2008 @ 4:49 pm

  8. Hi Pete:
    Hi RC:
    How’s it going? Your dad sounds like a good man. My dad raised me and my younger sister when I was 2 yrs old up until I finished college….yeah! I stayed home. But I am on my own 2 feet now. My mom was prety confused and left but Ive worked on it to forgive her, very hard. However I must agree that if a person violates another person then you are disqualified from the club of integrity. Violating a child is the worst thing. Quite frankly, I think that RW/GL/Ken W. Yu needs to clean up his past first before he buys another vodka for Miss russia; then come back and play hard ball with the real men—- can you handle it! LOL.
    stevie

    Comment by Steven Cross — July 21, 2008 @ 5:18 pm

  9. Hey what happened to RC’s post? That is weird…
    stevie

    Comment by Steven Cross — July 21, 2008 @ 5:20 pm

  10. Well, I agree that it sounds like Ken Yu was pimping Harry for money. Is that a crime? Sounds like it to me mate. $300? and then he told him that he would charge him more? Ken Yu or whoever this fella is, as we call you in England you sound like a bloody pimp. Pimping out Russian women more like it.

    Comment by Jack — July 21, 2008 @ 5:24 pm

  11. GL, sounds like you are trying to butter up Pete now. You’re a fake.

    Comment by Todd — July 21, 2008 @ 5:30 pm

  12. GL, sounds like you are trying to butter up Pete now. You’re a fake.

    Comment by Todd the King — July 21, 2008 @ 5:33 pm

  13. BTW, just my 2-cents.

    Comment by Todd the King — July 21, 2008 @ 5:37 pm

  14. 281-397-9535

    Comment by Thomas Dye — July 21, 2008 @ 5:41 pm

  15. Thanks Stevie for the court document on Kenneth W. Yu; Montgomery Texas, sexual assault with a minor. Pete, it’s real. I just read it man. Apparently the state of texas tried him and he left in the middle of his probation. Do not believe this GL character.

    Comment by Bullwinkle — July 21, 2008 @ 5:55 pm

  16. I HOPE KEN YU WHOEVER THIS GUY IS, IS PAYING FOR THE GIRL’S THERAPY BILL.

    Comment by Michael Mancini — July 21, 2008 @ 5:59 pm

  17. oops

    Comment by Michael Mancini — July 21, 2008 @ 6:01 pm

  18. Comment by larry king — July 21, 2008 @ 6:01 pm

  19. get a life GL, what a loser u r!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    Comment by larry king — July 21, 2008 @ 6:02 pm

  20. p.s. just my 2-cents

    Comment by larry king — July 21, 2008 @ 7:34 pm

  21. hi stevie,
    thanks for your msg. well, goes to show all of us: ya never know whoooooooooooooo is behind these blogs…
    RC

    Comment by Ralph — July 21, 2008 @ 7:53 pm

  22. interesting how my earlier reply was DELETED. hmm. maybe that con-man Ken Yu.

    Comment by Ralph — July 21, 2008 @ 7:54 pm

  23. sounds guilty to me. ive run across these types before. they mess up other people’s lives and then lv to anothe country. it’s delusional. sounds like rw or whoever he is needs a psychatrist. hope that the kids he has hurt are doing well.

    best wishes.
    lee w.

    Comment by Lee Wong — July 22, 2008 @ 8:40 am

  24. Well, now that the witch hunt has found its victim and proclaimed their judgment perhaps the voice of logic and reason can have a say as well.

    First I’ll start out with a bit of legal vocabulary for you gentlemen. An indictment is an accusation, nothing more. I could accuse any one of you of anything I wanted and have a court document made up exactly like the one Ralph Connell is stating that he has in is possession. In America, when accused of a crime that does not mean that he is guilty of this crime, in case you all have forgotten.

    The second piece of legal vocabulary I’ll share is something called a judgment. This would be the actual decision found out in this case. Ken was not found guilty of this crime! He was convicted of a much lesser misdemeanor which is where is parole sentence came from. He was CLEARED by the JUDGEMENT of all charges of indecency and sexual abuse.

    Don’t believe me? Here are a few good places to begin to see the truth of this. Since this case happened in 2001 Ken would have been automatically listed on these sites as being convicted as a sexual predator. Again being listed on these registries is MANDATORY if you have been convicted of a sexual or lewd act. He’s not on there, look for yourself… https://records.txdps.state.tx.us/DPS_WEB/Sor/index.aspx?PageIndex=Search&SubmitType=Name https://records.txdps.state.tx.us/DPS_WEB/Sor/index.aspx?PageIndex=Search&SubmitType=Name

    Probation must be served in the state in which the crime occurred, unless permission is given by the state to leave. So guess what? Ken got permission to move to California to continue is sentence and then he got permission to move to Russia, all legally and properly.

    Someone has obviously misled you to believe that the document you have was the final judgement in this case and that is obviously false. There is someone going to extraordinary lengths to smear his name.

    Here’s a quick question for you guys. How would you react if someone were to accuse you of a horrible act, get the indictment, and spread it around as the judgement in the case over the internet, even if you had not been found guilty of this crime? This is a serious act against him.

    Ken has tried his best to take is past experiences and use them as an inspiration and drive to start his blog. He’s trying to help as many men as he possibly can to be able to find true happiness in their lives and has done so for many years.

    I hope you all can see the truth to the story here. Ken is one of the good guys and a part of our movement. He has worked hard for years spreading our truth.

    SiSD sunnyinsandiego@mail.com

    Comment by SunnyInSanDiego — July 22, 2008 @ 6:17 pm

  25. Well, now that the witch hunt has found its victim and proclaimed their judgment perhaps the voice of logic and reason can have a say as well.

    First I’ll start out with a bit of legal vocabulary for you gentlemen. An indictment is an accusation, nothing more. I could accuse any one of you of anything I wanted and have a court document made up exactly like the one Ralph Connell is stating that he has in is possession. In America, when accused of a crime that does not mean that he is guilty of this crime, in case you all have forgotten.

    The second piece of legal vocabulary I’ll share is something called a judgment. This would be the actual decision found out in this case. Ken was not found guilty of this crime! He was convicted of a much lesser misdemeanor which is where is parole sentence came from. He was CLEARED by the JUDGEMENT of all charges of indecency and sexual abuse.

    Don’t believe me? Here are a few good places to begin to see the truth of this. Since this case happened in 2001 Ken would have been automatically listed on these sites as being convicted as a sexual predator. Again being listed on these registries is MANDATORY if you have been convicted of a sexual or lewd act. He’s not on there, try a search for youself. I tryed sending links through but the posts end up in the spam filter. There is a national registry and a state registry out there though, all clear.

    Probation must be served in the state in which the crime occurred, unless permission is given by the state to leave. So guess what? Ken got permission to move to California to continue is sentence and then he got permission to move to Russia, all legally and properly.

    Someone has obviously misled you to believe that the document you have was the final judgement in this case and that is obviously false. There is someone going to extraordinary lengths to smear his name.

    Here’s a quick question for you guys. How would you react if someone were to accuse you of a horrible act, get the indictment, and spread it around as the judgement in the case over the internet, even if you had not been found guilty of this crime? This is a serious act against him.

    Ken has tried his best to take is past experiences and use them as an inspiration and drive to start his blog. He’s trying to help as many men as he possibly can to be able to find true happiness in their lives and has done so for many years.

    I hope you all can see the truth to the story here. Ken is one of the good guys and a part of our movement. He has worked hard for years spreading the truth about what our reality has become.

    SiSD sunnyinsandiego@mail.com

    Comment by SunnyInSanDiego — July 23, 2008 @ 4:26 am

  26. I thought one of our beefs as men was that the justice system was failing us with regard to false accusations, paternity obligations and simple ideas like presumption of innocence.

    And we’re now quoting justice system documentation as sound basis for judgement?

    From total strangers?

    Over the internet?

    Sorry, I don’t do witch hunts. If there are bad elements amongst us – and I’m sure there are – then the justice system ought to pull finger and start earning some credibilty back. There is simply no other way to arrive at meaningful judgement other than by a judiciary that shows itself as competent, consistent and authentic. Accusation by blog, even if it is factually true, is a further regression from objective justice than the nonsense we’re currently stuck with.

    Comment by Rob Case — July 23, 2008 @ 5:13 am

  27. Sure sunnyinsandiego… how would you know it was “2001?” Seems you read it too? Not hard to find a public court order. I am for men’s rights but more importantly MEN WHO TAKE CARE OF THEIR KIDS, not abandon them. At least the guy in the above article took care of his 3 kids. God bless a man that can take care of the kids regardless of the crap around. Men like Ken Yu give all of us a bad name. Ive cared for my one child all alone for the past 10 yrs!!!!!!!!!!! my wife left me for an Italian man, moved out of the mainland USA to europe and guess what? we never heard from her. my dtr is in therapy of course.

    Comment by Lee Wong — July 23, 2008 @ 9:32 am

  28. RE: July 18, 2008
    More people waking up to legalized misandry?

    Pete: God bless this man in the article taking good care of his 3 kids. wow. Life can be hard. How can anyone live off of $100 a week AND raising 3 kids.

    Comment by Lance — July 23, 2008 @ 9:36 am

  29. GL: ok so you were indicted or whatever and pled to a lesser charge, who knows what happened only you know the real truth in your heart. however tell us about your “10 yr old boy in ca” or is he with you now? maybe you have him or not? your guilt to carry.

    i had the greatest dad and we are still best friends. one thing he taught me and my siser never let the kids suffer no matter what. I second the KUDOS to the man in the article raising his 3 kids good for you man. the women who leave their kids need to be called “DEAD BEAT MOTHERS.” no excuse. i have not spoken to my mom ever since she disappeared w/ another dude. my dad was hurt but even more he took care of us, sent us to therapy and we had to make it all work.

    Comment by Steven Cross — July 23, 2008 @ 9:49 am

  30. Can we talk about Raquel Welch NOWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW? Now, she is a hot topic!!!! What a babe even as a senior citizen. Wow. LOL.

    Comment by Ralph — July 23, 2008 @ 8:32 pm

  31. Oh Yeah… Raquel is hot. I’d like to have her, wishful thinking.

    Comment by Bullwinkle — July 23, 2008 @ 8:34 pm

  32. Re: I respect single moms A LOT, any single parent for that matter.

    Single parents who are truly good people (and u know who u r) and have been cheated by their exes leaving them with the full burden of raising the kid(s) (and its costly) have my applause. This man in the article does sound like a great guy, and my heart goes out to him. It is NOT easy to raise a child alone w/o any financial assistance or phyical help. My personal experience is that today’s courts are full of judges who favor the male party if he it is in the best interest of the kids. Take note that there are judges who are actually lesbians, those who believe in men’s rights to raise the kids and a diverse perspective of people in authority. I may be fortunate to have won full custody of my 2 daughters. My wife left me and moved to Bahamas. For me, I do not believe the courts favor women by any means. She was ordered to pay child support of $650 monthly which she did for about one year and then split…… I suppose if you look at history you will see that men have been in authority forever, from the beginning of time, we’ve always had the upper hand no matter what and still do in Turkey, but who the hell wants to live in Turkey!! Women were not awarded the kids until the past 50 yrs.

    I realize we men want to “take back” and regain our positions of dominance but the reality is there are many jerks around who give us a bad name such as the above mentioned who apparently molests a 13 yr old stepdaughter, ditches his kid in ca. and then incessantly harps about how we should pay for russian women (yes, i read the article) because it is the “traditional” thing to do. What a joke. Hey GL try taking care of the kid you ditched and then tell me how traditional you like to be. It irks me to see the absentee parent off doing her or his thing while we guys are left carrying the full burden of raising our kids. I hope my ex wife reads this. What a piece of work she is. We should lock these deadbeat parents up and throw the key away.

    MM in chicago

    Comment by Michael Mancini — July 24, 2008 @ 9:26 am

  33. hi mm: sorry for your hardship. it bloody sucks. hang in there. you sound very much like the article above. it is not easy to raise a child alone w/o help let alone 2 daughters. these deadbeat mothers do not know how much it costs to raise kids obviously. $400 monthly for 1 kid is not enough but for 3 kids it is a huge bloody crime. i vote that we put up the faces of these deadbeat parents all over the internet. women are becoming more and more absentee. my thoughts are that if one parent carrys the full burden, ther other pays child support. if both are helping out, no c.s. is needed. it sucks if the other parent splits out of country to bahamas. what the heck is she doing in bahamas? do you know the laws and if you can force her back to the mainland to force her to pay her part? at this point i would not want my kids w/ her if she abandoned them but mate….. she should pay for this.

    Comment by Jack — July 24, 2008 @ 9:35 am

  34. Pete,
    We’re with you man. I agree that any man who claims to want to pay for any woman solely on being “traditional” is lying. He may take her to mcdonalds but let’s find out what he means that he pays for these women.

    Hey GL,
    do you think a woman from the USA/westerner is going to turn you down if you want to pay her way to dinner? LOL. You sound very very mixed up. How about that diamond in the window? Either you have millions of dollars and can afford to pay for women, or you are so full of sh** while hiding behind some facade of deceipt….something seems suspicious about your motives. BTW interesting how GL got sooooooooooooooooooo touchy about being called a Mangina! I’d say the guy is very defensive and outright…mangina.

    larry the king

    Comment by Larry K — July 24, 2008 @ 9:54 am

  35. same thing happened to me. my loser wife married another loser guy who ended up molesting our daughter. son of a bit** is now in jail. hey gl/ken who or whatever did you pay for your stepdaughter first? losers.

    Comment by Todd — July 24, 2008 @ 10:51 am

  36. Ive known Ken Yu all of my life. He is 41 yrs old. Chinese American, parents from China. We grew up together and were in a catholic grammar school together, not that he has any belief system. I know pretty much everything about the guy. After he became fed up with the middle class whites in Saratoga he moved overseas to a small island, Guam, where he lived for a good 12 yrs. Then he moved to Texas with his wife 2 mos before actually molesting the 13 yr old stepdtr. The wife left him after this. [By the way I will say that we are no longer friends after he screwed me in a business deal etc. and he completely betrayed my trust as well. I will not go into it but he knows what I am talking about.] Anyways, i know that he was in all sorts of court battles overseas in Guam before heading to Woodlands Tx. The last time I spoke to one of his relatives I was told that his son is living in Ca. and he competely abandoned him, no calls, no emails, no support at all. Everyone tried to tell him to stick around to help the boy but he had other more important things to do. All I can say is that this guy is no good. He has burned more people, hurt so many that it I cannot believe a word he says. A real con artist. Be careful.

    Comment by california — July 24, 2008 @ 11:42 am

  37. My personal experience is that today’s courts are full of judges who favor the male party if he it is in the best interest of the kids. Take note that there are judges who are actually lesbians, those who believe in men’s rights to raise the kids and a diverse perspective of people in authority. I may be fortunate to have won full custody of my 2 daughters. My wife left me and moved to Bahamas. For me, I do not believe the courts favor women by any means. She was ordered to pay child support of $650 monthly which she did for about one year and then split……

    I was with you until this section man. While I don’t have any personal experience with family court until now, I read stories every day where the man gets shafted whether or not its his fault.

    Going on a tangent here, I sometimes wonder whether its belief in the innate “just-ness” of the courts that leads so many people to believe that any man who got screwed must have had it coming, or a belief in the innate badness of men that leads people to believe that the courts are fair and just.

    Anyway, I’m betting your case was an exception. If you look at the research out there, women seem to get custody most of the time, not all the time. I think the figure is like above 80% for sole custody with women and the rest is divided up between joint custody and sole custody with men.

    I’ve even seen stories where strangers, aged grandparents and the mother’s family is preferred over giving the father custody. So I hope you understand if it takes me a little longer to believe that courts are fair towards fathers.

    Also, try moving to the Bahamas and not paying child support as a man. 🙂

    Comment by Pete — July 24, 2008 @ 11:23 pm

  38. My thoughts are that the men who actually do recieve full custody of their kids have either 1)plenty of money and power to use to their advantage (e.g. attorney and wife divorce; attorney recieves full custody, wife visitation etc.)or 2) wife is a drug addict, abusive or severely mentally ill. First of all raising a child takes much energy and demands full attention. This cuts into any relaxing play time that we men need. Plenty of money can buy freedom such as a nanny, babysitters and so on. Women, in general, appear to have less income overall than men setting them up for less desireable situations such as having to work 1-2 full time jobs in which case the kid(s) may be exposed to unhealthy and dangerous environments (loser boyfriends, loser people, abuse etc.). This pushes many females towards the use of government welfare/subsidies. Life sucks! No matter how we look at this situation when kids are involved, breaking up and fighting can be agony and torturous…. and the kids suffer and grow up feeling pist off at the world. One other thought is that we use prevention strategies such as teaching young kids about what can happen in the real world if things do not work out and perhaps showing videos, open discussion and actual cases. I mean why wait until we are in our adult yrs to have all of this thrown at us. I figure that we teach kids about sex education but we leave out important social skills.

    Comment by Lance — July 25, 2008 @ 1:59 pm

  39. Re: Raquel Welch

    LOL!!!!! I always thought she was so beautiful too.

    Comment by Lee Wong — July 26, 2008 @ 10:55 am

  40. Hi Pete,

    I understand that in today’s world you may be correct, and of course it all depends on the judge, the state, the court, the judge’s mood that day and whether he or she likes you. The list goes on. Our world is becoming more liberal practically everywhere, even outside of USA. There are female presidents in foreign countries (e.g. Philippines) as well. What is your story Pete? Tell us more. You seem like a sensitive and interesting and smart guy and I enjoy your postings.

    MM

    Comment by Michael Mancini — July 28, 2008 @ 10:27 am

  41. Hi Michael, you can find my story on my older blog, at http://petepatriarch.blogspot.com/2006/11/origins-of-anti-feminist.html. I have a lot of interesting stuff in my archives there that you might want to take a look at.

    Take care and keep in touch!

    Comment by Pete — July 29, 2008 @ 2:23 am

  42. Hello California:

    About the “GL” character… It looks like he has a misdemeaner on his on his record originating from the sexual assault against his step dtr. Usually there is a form of family violence… Do you know much about his upbringing?

    LW

    Comment by Lee Wong — July 30, 2008 @ 11:29 am

  43. Let’s just say he definitely has a personality disorder; and mood problems. His younger brother seems to have turned out fine.

    Comment by California — August 1, 2008 @ 2:19 pm

  44. i suppose the witch has been found out. his russian women’s blog site is hilarious!!!!!!!! i just checked it out for the first time. imagine a deadbeat loser like this guy GL rw ken yu who will not pay for his own son, but pays for russian hookers, and is arrested for family violence several times, sexually assaults hia 13 yr old stepdtr and ditches his son … the guy is a complete PHONY! after reading his site, it made me sick.

    Ralph C

    Comment by RC — August 8, 2008 @ 7:03 pm

  45. hello pete, how do i get a “face” on comment post? never tried this before.

    Comment by LW — August 16, 2008 @ 8:54 am

  46. LW, once you sign up for WordPress.com as an actual user, you can go into your profile to put up a picture. Then your pic will come in every post you make.

    Comment by Pete — August 16, 2008 @ 9:18 pm

  47. sisd wrote: Probation must be served in the state in which the crime occurred, unless permission is given by the state to leave. So guess what? Ken got permission to move to California to continue is sentence

    lenny responds: hmm. so ken you were found guilty in order to have recieved PROBATION. no one is given a sentence and probation unless found gulty. i was checking out this whole article on this ken yu chinese character and ive got to say that he has got to be the biggest hypocrite and liar i’ve run across. i mean the man beat up his ex wife, molested the 13 yr old dtr and left a young son behind in california…. without any financial support!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! what the hell is with these losers we have in our world? now he claims that he should pay for russian ladies? and he’s sticking his nose into the bullsh** that russian men are legally preventing/blocking their kids from leaving the russian country? what the heck is this to do with him? ken yu, go back to texas and calif. and face up. you are a coward sitting behind a computer pretending to be a man of good faith. i can bet your own son thinks you are a piece of sh**. let me tell you, when my wife and i split up i made certain to pay child support and make things as comfortable for everyone as possible. my son and i are close to this day. he has graduated from college and joined the air force this year! very proud of him. when i see men like ken yu getting away with crimes against their own children i want to personally airlift them and drop them in the middle of the terrorist camps for lunch.

    Comment by lennylovestexas — September 6, 2008 @ 8:20 am

  48. Lest we forget: http://wp.me/pC12d-24

    Comment by Tommy — November 11, 2009 @ 4:34 am


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